Monday, August 19, 2013

Too shocked to cry

This letter.

This letter right here.

Sent to the grandmother of an Autistic teen.

The sort of severe ableism that needs to be discussed before it gets out of control.

The sort of terrifying bigotry that can make me fear for my safety.

The sort of thing I didn't think existed anymore.

I'm too shocked to cry.

I don't even know what to say to this...

I feel sick...

So I will quote Autistic Hoya.

"If we can't conform, if we can't pass, if we can't adhere to compliance as ethics, if we can't become invisible...

We should die. "

Police have been contacted and are investigating.


  1. I've been aware of this for the past couple of days now, but regardless as an Aspie, I'm shocked and appalled at the utter contempt shown by the writer of this letter. People with disabilities suffer enough with living without bigots mouthing (or in this case, writing) off and thinking it's okay to communicate such things.

  2. I've seen this letter going around and had to shake my head in disbelief that there are people out there who think and communicate like this. Sounds like a case of willful ignorance and sense of entitlement. Luckily there are also people who express the opposite sentiments, understand reality is different for everyone and try to see outside of their own limited perspectives. Hopefully the investigation comes to a productive conclusion and the person who wrote this letter gets a good wake up call.

  3. I just now found your blog. Good thing this woman isn't my neighbor. I'd personally crap on her lawn. Good day, sir.

  4. I cannot imagine what you go through every day, but I thank you for sharing your voice. My entire family was simply shocked when we saw the original letter. I am grateful that it has, instead, encouraged an outpouring of kindness, encouragement, and conversation about autism that is bringing understanding to the limelight. The original author's intent has backfired and autism is on the tip of everyone's tongues, now, allowing the FACTS to get out and combat the MYTHS that are too often perpetuated. Please don't stop sharing your voice with us. Stay strong. You are a beautiful human being.

  5. I've known for over half my life I have autism. People like this letter writer are what made someone like me push myself into hibernation for many many years. Disgusted doesn't even begin to describe the distaste I feel toward this.

  6. I just found your blog. I am a proud auntie of two great kids on the spectrum. It has always saddened me to think they may face bullying and isolation from other kids. This letter, written by an adult is disgusting. What is worse is that she has children that she is teaching this behavior to. Thanks for the voice.

  7. Wow just wrote. ..... I don't know what my reaction would have been if this had been a letter someone delivered to me. I probably would have any for to sore until i found this mother. And then would have given her a piece of my mind. I hope the lay who got this didn't move. I weap for anyone who has to deal with such intolerance.